Our talk: Do you make the mistake of making big people's mistakes?

The English film 'Gifted', released in 2017 and now available on Netflix, is about a little girl who is interested in mathematics from a very young age. Problems begin to be solved. Her grandmother takes Mary to a great mathematician, who gives her a big problem to solve. The girl, who has been staring at the blackboard for a long time, finally admits defeat. The look on that professor's face says, 'You call that genius?' The grandmother who came out of the class is in a daze. He blames the whole thing on the professor, who asked a little girl who had traveled a long way to solve such a long, difficult puzzle directly in an unfamiliar environment. Then Mary says that it was not possible to solve that maths problem because there was a mistake in the question itself. The beaming grandmother carried Mary back into the room, beaming. There, Tchookdi Mary first corrected the mistake in the question by climbing the stairs and then solved the problem. The professor, who deliberately confuses the girl, finally tells Mary, 'If you knew about the mistake in the question, why didn't you tell me earlier?' Then the little genius replied, 'Frank (her uncle) told me never to correct the mistakes of older people. Nobody likes half-baked boys.' An experience a few days ago reminded me of this film, and particularly Mary's response to the elderly professor. Aldo James, originally from Kerala and very clever since childhood, works in a big company in Bangalore. He came there with his parents who live in Kochi during Diwali. In conversation I told that my niece also lives in Domlur area of ​​Bangalore. And then added that near Jayanagar. 'Domlur…Jayanagar' Aldo nodded. In the evening he went on a long drive with us. During the conversation, Indira Nagar, a posh area of ​​Bangalore, was mentioned. Then suddenly I remembered that Domlur is a neighbor of Indira Nagar, not Jayanagar. To Aldo, I complained, why didn't you correct my mistake at lunch in the afternoon? Aldo gave a small smile and said, 'What to improve on that? I thought then that you must have slipped off your tongue.' Aldo, 32, then had visions of six-seven-year-old Mary from the movie 'Gifted'. Aldo may have been taught by his elders or may have decided on his own not to correct the mistakes of older people? Even if the mind calls the other a fool. Almost all of us have at one time or another indulged in such mary aldogiri. Especially when the opposite age is older than us in authority. Whatever he says, it is wise to remain silent. Everyone has seen that 'Boss is always right' poster. Elders are our boss in childhood. Parents are always right, whether children are indoctrinated or elders. Do not mistake them, do not speak against them, do not argue with them. If he speaks or does wrong, if he is wronged by something he says, he should keep silent and accept it, he is considered an ideal child. When the movie 'Baahubali' became a hit, it was said jokingly that women liked Prabhas, the hero of that movie, because he took his wife's side in the court and said, 'Ma, tum galat ho.' The ideal son always takes the mother's side against the wife during domestic disputes. Baahubali, who considers his mother as God, however, in order to bring justice to his wife, told the mother, 'You are making a mistake.' It is a different story that the son had to pay a heavy price for showing such courage. The habit of keeping silent against the mistakes of the elders who are the symbol of authority in the home does not go away even in old age. After growing up, let alone speaking against the mistakes of the boss in the office, clerics and political leaders in public life, we do not mind applauding their lies. Sometimes out of selfishness, sometimes out of fear, we remain silent. We may say Satyamev Jayate for the sake of saying, but in reality truth does not always win. Liars often win, and anyone who dares to show them a mirror is left in the lurch. For fear of that happening, we reassure ourselves in silence that even if so-and-so lies or makes mistakes, what is wrong with my father! But in such circumstances, even if nothing goes to the Heavenly Father, it goes to us. If we don't draw attention to or punish the child's mistakes, it will deteriorate more and more, the wise people who say that, keep quiet about the mistakes and lies of people who have more power and power than themselves, spoil them even more. In the long run, it harms not only itself, but thousands and millions of other people.