Dr. Spandan Thacker
Lavika and Mitesh were very good friends. Friendship grew as they got along very well with each other. Understanding the flaws in both of their natures, they paid more attention to it. Because of this, sometimes if one character is in a sad mood, the other character understands and helps him without saying. Due to which, friendship gradually progressed into a relationship. Malvika and Mitesh had finally decided to get married, but within a few days of deciding to get married, the two started having some conflicts. Thoughts that could be understood without being said could not be resolved even after being said. Their slight possessiveness towards each other also started to grow. Conditions such as having to talk at certain times and having to meet daily started to be enforced. Due to this situation, instead of increasing closeness, they started to move away from each other. Sometimes there is a conflict over such a trivial matter that both of them are very disappointed after the fight. He began to feel that someone had caught his eye. In fact, the stability of a relationship between two people is not based on how much time they spend with each other, but on how much quality time they spend with each other. When two people are with each other, if there is an argument between them for no reason, at the end of the whole day, it seems as if they were not together at all. A short but well-timed replacement can provide fuel for several more days. When labeling starts happening in the relationship, it becomes a pressure in the relationship. There is more freedom when there are only friends and when the same friendship turns into a relationship, the definition of the relationship changes. Now we have to meet every day, talk on the phone for some time, have to give updates on everything between both of them, have to go out with them, many things are added which creates pressure in the relationship. Spending time with both of them is a different thing and the thing that has to be spent is pressure. The fact is that even if you are not physically with each other, if you can be with each other mentally, that is a sign of a more stable relationship. Intimacy means being more understanding, listening and caring during stressful times. The foundation of any relationship rests on intimacy. Even if the labels of the relationship change, if the intimacy between each other remains the same, the commitment to the relationship increases. After some conflict, one does not remember the topic of the fight but remembers the fight. Often due to frequent fights, communication with each other begins to decrease and a situation arises where they meet just for the sake of meeting. According to the rule of relationship counseling, quality over quantity is the key to the stability of any relationship. Relationships that drain each other's energy do not last long.
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