When someone died in the house and wanted to call a family member living far away, at one time it was only said on the phone that the health of that person in the house has deteriorated and has been admitted to the hospital, so come as soon as possible. The intention behind hiding the truth is only so that the other person can stay a little sane during the long journey. To what extent this purpose will be successful, who knows, but it is not possible at present. Everyone has a mobile phone. When there is a sudden news of someone's death, people start to forward it as if it is a good news. A person sitting at any end of the world has received a condolence message from an outsider before his family calls him. This is what happened to a young woman in Dubai recently. Here we will call her Priya. In the morning, I received a message from my brother from Kochi that 'Dad has been admitted to the hospital in a serious condition. They will feel better if you come.' Priya immediately reported to her office, and booked an evening ticket to come to India with her husband. His uncle living in Dubai came to know that Peter is no longer in this world. He also left to come to Kochi with Priya. He hid the truth, but while going to the airport, someone sent a consoling message to Priya's phone, who was sitting on the back seat of the car, expressing grief over the death of her father. And naturally the shocked daughter started crying. The husband sitting next to her held her hand and tried to keep her calm. Uncle saw so much from the front seat. What to say then, but reached Kochi, Peter's funeral took place. Then he came home and threw up his embarrassment. 'What kind of man is called?' He talked about Priya's husband. 'Poor Priya was crying, but her husband just held her hand and did his duty. Alya, is your wife, at such a time she should be comforted. Cry on your shoulder, chest or lap. Alas, even after getting out of the car, the bus remained standing. At such a time, without worrying about who else is around, he hugs his wife and keeps her close. He didn't even hug her. A fifty-two-year-old uncle is furious with a thirty-two-year-old son-in-law. 'He might have been embarrassed to do that in your presence' I tried to defend the young man. But uncle's displeasure did not decrease.' So he was waiting to hug and comfort him when he was alone in the room with his wife after the funeral? Maybe it did, but the girl needed it at the Dubai airport, where she broke down. Should it be the uncle's first husband's responsibility to turn his hand over her, to wipe her tears or not?' Uncle's words were not wrong. In happiness or in sorrow, in joy or in sorrow, should we hesitate to touch our person? In very old times, husband and wife did not even talk to each other in the presence of elders. In some places, in the presence of others, the wife used to pull the veil against her husband as well. We heard from the well-known feminist and social activist Sonal Shukla that in some castes and houses, once in the presence of elders, a man would refrain from holding or holding his small child on his lap, because the child is a symbol of the sexual relationship between husband and wife. I was very surprised to hear. Everyone in the family knows what happens in the bedroom. If a boy is married or has children, he will advance the hierarchy. Then why do so much hypocrisy in public, and that too in the name of the elders, in the name of culture? This is not happening now, but in the name of rites, various rules are still being enforced. This is not to say that everything that happens in the bedroom can be done outside, in front of others. Not done. But if we are sitting there in the garden with boys and girls sitting next to each other or holding hands, let us pretend to be hypocrites and shout that we are ashamed to see this, it affects our little children badly… Oh, children are affected, such of hypocrisy. And growing up, he also wears the breastplate of hypocrisy. While watching porno clips on the phone in private, he protested against giving mobile phones to girls. Priya's husband does not fall in the category of such people. He supports his wife in everything. Priya's uncle also calls him a 'good man'. But this time they had only one problem that far away from home, after hearing the news of her father's death, Priya could not cling to this good husband in the car or at the airport and cry with her head on his chest. It is possible that the son-in-law would have hesitated to do such a thing against the uncle. But he doesn't know how much he upset uncle by showing this kind of shyness!
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