Mohini Mehta
Question: I have been married for six months. My husband meanwhile is constantly asking me to have a relationship. Even if I tell them no, they don't believe. How should I explain them? A girl (Ahmedabad) Answer : Your marriage is still six months old and your husband is insisting you to have a relationship. One of the reasons behind this may be that they may like your company more and another reason may be that their sexual desire is high. Only then will they be atyagraha with you. Don't believe even if you say no. You kindly explain to them what is bothering you. He will surely understand and try to control his desire. Question: After a year of our marriage, I found out that my wife is having an affair. I tried hard to explain to him and his wife, and also requested his sister i.e. my elder brother-in-law, but they do not understand any of my words. My wife supports me closely. what should i do A young man (Porbandar) Answer: If you have tried to convince your wife, her sister-in-law, but they are not ready to understand you, it is not right. Your wife should understand and put a full stop to this relationship. If all three are not giving any kind of positive response on this, now you have only one option which is to report this to your parents and in-laws. Solving the matter by having the elders mediate is all that is required in your case. Question: It's been a while since I got engaged. I have come to know about my future husband that he is in love with a girl and my future mother-in-law was not happy to marry that girl. So engaged to me. If this is true, what will happen to me after marriage? Will my married life be happy? what do i do A Girl (Surat) Answer : It is not worth worrying about what you have come to know about your future husband without knowing to what extent it is true. Do you first try to find out if this is true? And if the matter is true, get your parents and in-laws together on this matter and get the answer to the question that is bothering you about your future married life. People often make a big deal out of even the smallest things, so take every step carefully. Question: I am studying in 11th standard. I really like a girl from my class in my school. I have informed him about my feelings indirectly and he has also given me the expected response. We both want to get married. Please give us proper guidance as to what to do. A boy (Rajkot) Answer : You are studying in eleventh standard so your age should not be more than sixteen-seventeen years. In it you have fallen in love with a girl from your class and you like that girl too as you say. You both want to get married too, but love at this age is just heterosexual attraction, nothing special. Both of you are attracted to each other. Also, even thinking about getting married at this age is exaggerated. Both of you pause for a while and give full attention to your studies for now. Establish careers for both of you and then in time if you both feel that you must get married, talk to both of your parents at home.
Question: I love a girl, but she is not even ready to talk to me. I like her so much, I want to marry her. She is not talking to me, so how to prepare her? A young man (Bareja) Answer: Just because you like her doesn't necessarily mean she likes you. Sometimes such one-sided love happens in youth. Express your feelings to him once, even ask him for marriage and if he is not interested then it is better to forget him because most of the time such love has no importance.
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