Sweet dilemma: Should a girl propose to a guy she likes in front of her?

Mohini Mehta

Question: I am 24 years old female and working in corporate. I like a young man who works with me and I want to propose him in front to express this feeling. Although I am afraid that if I propose in front, he will not consider me to be of good character? Should a girl propose in front? A girl (Ahmedabad) Answer: When Taramaitrak is formed between a young man and a young woman, they understand each other's feelings in their minds but do not have the courage to express it in words. In the sweet confusion of who should express feelings first, the roads often split. A girl is afraid to confess because she is afraid of her image, while a guy's shy nature often prevents him from proposing. A few years ago, it was believed that if a girl proposes from the front, her character is not right, but now the thinking of young people has not come and there has been a radical change in it. Now who proposes first? The waste of time in such thinking is not good for the boy or the girl. Today's youth is very clear about preparing for the response even after proposing. Now even young men find it positively welcoming for a girl to propose. When a boy is truly in love and does not want to lose the one he loves, he is afraid to take the initiative in expressing his love. And similarly when a girl is really in love and does not want to lose her loved one, she does not hesitate to take the initiative in Izhar. This may seem contradictory, but it is also true. In this situation, if the girl confesses in front, many mental complications can end and a new relationship can start positively. Question: I am 24 years old, I am not married. I have no relationship with any girl. My nature is introvert. I want my future partner to be beautiful and hardworking with no past. Will I find such a partner? A young man (Vadodara) Answer : You are of marriageable age. You are not in a relationship with a girl and you want a future life partner who has no past. Such a condition and expectation is a bit excessive. In today's modern age there is friendship between young men and women. Of course, this does not apply to every girl. Many girls only have sisters. When you choose a girl as your future life partner, make it clear with her beforehand. May you find the life partner of your choice. Question: I have been married for three years. The problem is that we have not had physical relations for two and a half years. In the beginning, two or three times we made a relationship. However, there was no response from my wife. After that I try many times, but no response from him. Sometimes I have to talk to him at home or explain to him? It is not talked about in my house. What to do? A young man (Surat) Answer : Your problem is understandable. If your wife responded to you after marriage and now she is not responding, first try to know the reason behind it. If their clarification does not solve your problem, then you should talk to your in-laws because if you do this at all, it is possible that you may not get the response you want from your in-laws and also from your wife.

Question: A young man who works with me has proposed to me several times. I haven't replied to him yet. My parents want me to marry within my caste, when he is not of our caste and also his salary is less than mine. How should I inform my parents about this? A girl (Rajkot) Answer: That young man has expressed his feelings by proposing to you. Now it's your turn. If you like that young man and want to marry him, tell your parents about it. Also tell them that in today's modern times, no one raises any particular objection about caste etc. Secondly, whether his salary is lower or higher than yours, there is no need to make it an issue. Everything will be fine in time. If you explain to your parents, they will agree.

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