Sweet Confusion: Friendship with Kaleigh Turns into Office Gossip!

Mohini Mehta

Question: I have been married for three years. We initially did family planning for two years. After that, despite constant efforts, I could not achieve motherhood. My in-laws now blame me and husband also supports them. Am I alone responsible for not being able to enjoy motherhood? No fault of my husband? what should i do A Girl (Sanand) Answer: Your embarrassment is understandable because the husband has the same responsibility as the wife in assuming the happiness of motherhood. You have not mentioned whether you both did family planning during the first two years as per any doctor's advice or you took all the decisions on your own. However, if everyone in the in-laws is blaming you and your husband is also supporting them, then your husband should understand that you are not the only one responsible for this. Explain this to your husband calmly. Question: A young man in my office is a special friend of mine. We both often go out or watch movies together. The office staff misunderstands our friendship. There is no such relationship between us. What should we do? A girl (link) Answer : Your colleague is your special friend and you both hang out, but due to this the staff misunderstands about your friendship. From this it can be understood that even today people hesitate to accept true friendship between young men and women. If there is no such relationship between the two of you, neither of you need to clarify it. Over time everyone will automatically realize that you two are good friends. Many times people cannot leave their conservative mindset, but if we are right then there is no need to fear people or society. You also check your behavior. If it needs to be corrected, correct the behavior immediately. Question: My son has developed some addictions recently. Even if you explain a lot to him, he is not ready to understand. His friends also inquired about this, but they say that they do not know anything. How can I free my son from this curse? A man (Ahmedabad) Answer : First of all you should get your son admitted in a good de-addiction center. By staying there, his addictive habit will gradually go away. Persuasion often does not work in such matters. You asked his friends, but there is no telling how far they are telling the truth. Staying at a de-addiction center will remove your son's addiction. After that, if you keep him away from his current friends by convincing him with love, then it is possible that he will get rid of this habit permanently. Question: I am 33 years old. I am not married yet. My parents showed me many young men, but for some reason I didn't like any of them. Now those people are forcing me to choose someone. I am not ready to compromise like this. what to do A girl (Vadodara) Answer : If you have to get married then take a quick decision now is the time. Generally 22 to 28 years of age is considered suitable for marriage. As far as you are concerned, first check with yourself that you have not liked any young man yet? Your wrong stubbornness is not responsible for that, is it? Assess the situation in a neutral manner and take a decision accordingly.

Question: When we have sex, sometimes my husband is very affectionate, sometimes he forces it. His behavior has made me disinterested in company. what should i do A woman (Rajkot) Answer: It is possible that the reason why your husband is forced to have sex with you is because he felt bad because of some behavior of yours. Clarify with your husband why he is behaving like this. Give adequate feedback to the husband when you enjoy company. They will relate to you lovingly every time.