My Space: Sixteen years of age is not an age, neither inside nor outside, a threshold to hold the feet

Dodra's sensational gangrape has ended in a thriller exercise. The police have arrested three accused… The family members of the accused are absconding after locking themselves in the house. On the other hand, in Bhuj, the same day a teacher's wife gave birth to a child, the teacher ran away with a seventeen-and-a-half-year-old girl… Reading the news in the same day's newspaper about rape, abduction of a minor and an abandoned girl child, one realizes that the worship of Navratri, the worship of Shakti, of women Words like honor are slowly losing their meaning. This is the third gang-rape in five years at a single place in Vadodara – an area of ​​10 km. Similar to this gang-rape, a 14-year-old 8-month-old minor was gang-raped in 2019 on November 28, 2019, at Navalkhi Ground, just nine kilometers away from Bhayli. Sagira was sitting in the Navlakhi ground with her fiancé. Then two men named Kishan Mathasuriya and Jasha Solanki threatened Sagira's fiancee and chased her away. The minor was then taken to a nearby bush and gang-raped. After the investigation of the entire incident was handed over to the crime branch, the police arrested both the accused. Both these accused were sentenced to life imprisonment by the Vadodara court. When in the year 2021, the incident of gangrape of a student also came to light in Vaccine Ground, which is only eight kilometers away from the place of Bhayali rape. In this whole incident Vidyarthini, the rape victim committed suicide in 'Gujarat Queen Express'. However, even after three years, the accused of this gang-rape have not been caught yet. The question is not, what is the rapist's disorder and why – there is no point in trying to understand the mentality of the monster, but the bigger question facing our society should be understood – every parent should be open with their family, be it a daughter or a son. Heart and free mind should discuss this question once. Not only in Gujarat, in our country in isolated and desolate places, early in the morning or late at night, most of the cases of such mutilation and rape, torture are minors – teenagers! Some have gone to meet their boyfriend early in the morning, some are sitting with their fiance or friends in a secluded place. Some are seduced by the teacher, some are lured into love jihad by the handsome-carriage heathen youth standing outside the college. In short, the question is that daughters who cannot talk to anyone in their family, cannot bring a male friend home, are subjected to a lot of pressure, strictness and strictness, parents keep a 'watchful eye' on them. Claims the same daughters steps in the wrong direction earlier and faster. What are we really doing to our daughters in the name of Indian culture? What is the first thought that comes to mind when you see a couple sitting in a dark and secluded corner of any city or state in Gujarat? They have to find such secluded and dark corners because we are not ready to understand their mind and body. It is very natural and natural for boys and girls to be attracted to each other as they enter their teenage-puberty. If parents and family members can understand and accept such attraction or age-related behavior, then today's youth who are looking for dark corners may not fall victim to such cases. The main point is that in our homes, especially in Gujarati homes, discussion about certain things is seen as taboo. A grown-up daughter is not comfortable in front of her father, so a mother hesitates to embrace or caress a young son… How surprising is it that the one whom we play in our arms, sit on our lap suddenly turns from a son or daughter into a woman and a man. goes This is our conservative-rigid mindset. With changing times, technology and exposure have increased. Until yesterday an eight-year-old girl was not conscious of her body, today adolescence starts at 8 or 10, not 13. The age of physical development also starts earlier than it was a decade ago, if the parents, brothers and sisters at home make the daughter or son aware of their development and mental changes, then maybe they can speak their mind. So these boys do not have to find anyone outside! Movies, semi-nude posters, provocative scenes shown on OTT and easy access to the dark web, increasing amount of porn and phone sex have had a profound impact on the youth psyche. When a 13-14 year old son is caught watching porn or a 14-15 year old daughter is caught chatting on the phone with someone, instead of 'talking' to her, parents accuse, hit and punish her… If this happens to one child, then the rest get scared If we as parents want our child to believe in us, to speak the truth to us, then we have to develop the ability to digest that 'truth'. If the parents of 45-50 today are expecting that their children will behave obediently like 'A' lived like they treated their parents, then their expectation will never be fulfilled. Back then there were no cellphones, no internet, there were more than one brother and sister, so friends used to meet at home. In a joint family, younger and older cousins ​​don't have to look for someone to confide in… Now, a single child family and busy parents! Expensive things and higher education give, but neither time nor understanding can. The police will do its job and catch the accused… But, warmth in the home and understanding of the parents, acceptance of the changes coming in the children are equally necessary to prevent such cases from happening.}