B.N. Dastur
It is Sanskrit subtitled: ajnabhango naredranam, viprana mankhandanam, pratham shayya cha narinam shastravadha uchate. If you want to kill without a weapon, disobey the king's command, insult the pandit and make the woman sleep on a separate bed. There were eleven divorces in the royal family of England. The reasons may be many, but psychologists believe that one important reason is the separate bedrooms of husband and wife. According to the Parsi Personal Law, a Parsi couple married in traditional Zoroastrianism has to go to a 'Parsi Matrimonial Court' to obtain a divorce. The Parsi Matrimonial Court has the same status as any other court, but there is a system of volunteers to mediate between husband and wife. My late Banvi Parvez Daruwala was a volunteer at the Parsi Matrimonial Court in Surat for thirty years. According to his observation, in most cases, the divorce process starts with small quarrels. Due to small and minor reasons, there is a conflict between the husband and wife and the communication between the two is omitted. There is no desire to say the golden word of reconciliation 'sorry' and if it is, the tongue will not rise. In such scenarios, both sleep on separate beds, do not get sleep, the mind goes crazy and both become the 'fly' and the microscope. In a beautiful woman who melts the heart and mind, a fly can see only a small dimple on her cheek. Everything that is correct appears ten thousand times larger in a microscope. Spouses in different beds become fly-like, microscope-like and breathless squirms, squirms, squirms, 'charges' in the matrimonial courts. He doesn't remember my birthday, but he doesn't forget to give that monkey secretary a gift on his birthday. He remembers his boss's marriage anniversary, not ours. According to the research done all over the world, small physical intimacy-enhancing actions like hugging, holding hands, feelings remain positive, emotional bonding increases. Physical intimacy in the same bed is handy. According to a research, the use of a double bed regulates the body temperature of both and improves the quality of sleep, reduces anxiety and stress, reduces the amount of stress hormone cortisol, and strengthens the immune system. Let me say another thing that there is no practice of dowry among Parsees. A husband buys his wife's jewellery. Before the wedding, the two visit the family's soni and buy Yathashakti jewelry. In that case, the future husband pays the bill. In front, the wife brings furniture – a double bed, two chairs on which to sit for the marriage ceremony, a steel, mostly Godrej cupboard, a cupboard, a coffee table. Allowed to compromise in chair, cupboard, coffee table, but not allowed to bring single bed number two. Double bed mandatory. One thing to remember is that in today's environment there are only three activities in the bedroom – sleep, cuddles and love. No entry to cellphone, newspaper and book. It is solid in the Torah that it is wise to have a double bed in a single bedroom. Wednesday's Enlightenment Sufis say, 'There is no skill in handling the world. If possible, touch someone's heart.
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