In this busy life everyone is busy with himself. Ain't nobody got time. In such a situation, a person has become a robot. It has become difficult to share my feelings with anyone. Perhaps this is the reason why people are increasingly angry and irritable and its effects are being seen from the office to the home.
Gallup, a multinational company based in Washington, releases the Global Emotional Survey report every year. According to the 2023 report, 54% of people worldwide are experiencing loneliness and depression. According to Gallup's report for the year 2021, 23% of the world suffered from severe anger. If we look at the reports of the last several years, this number is constantly increasing.
But this emotion is not limited to anger. This anger gradually creates tension and later creates conflict. Due to this, sometimes there are arguments and disputes with family members at home and sometimes with the boss or colleagues in the office.
But the serious point here is how fatal this conflict proves to be to one's mental-physical health as well as to one's career and family life.
So today 'relationship' In the column we will tell you about it in detail, and also know that-
- How does conflict hurt?
- How can conflict be resolved?
How does conflict in relationships hurt you?
If you have a dispute with a family member at home, it will disturb you mentally. This will negatively affect your work and family life. For example, if you argue with your partner, your whole day will be ruined. Also, even after going to the office, you will not be able to work wholeheartedly.
Ken Sand is a well-known American life coach, known as a conflict expert. He has nearly 40 years of work on how to resolve conflicts. He has also written a book on the subject, 'Solving Daily Struggle.' In his book, Kane explains the dangers of conflict in great detail.
Why does conflict occur?
Ken Sand writes that the greatest cause of conflict is the clash of egos or egos. Whatever issue is disputed may not actually be a big deal, but it becomes a big deal. That is why Kane writes that to understand any conflict, we must ask ourselves some important questions-
How to resolve conflict
After getting to the bottom of the conflict and understanding it, the most important question now is how to resolve it. Ken Sands offers some important suggestions for this as well.
Check out the graphic below, then let's talk about it in detail-
Contact directly
Instead of complaining to others, talk directly to the person you have a problem with. This will reduce the chances of a rift between the two and your mind will also feel at ease by expressing your feelings. Talking directly is more effective than texting on the phone or complaining to everyone. However, you have to control your language while speaking.
Choose the right time
Plan ahead and give yourself enough time for the conversation. For example, don't start talking about a conflict while the other person is preparing dinner. Try to talk in a quiet place where both of you can discuss calmly. It will help both to understand each other's thoughts and feelings.
Plan in advance
Think in advance about what you want to say. Explain to the other person what the problem is and how it affects you. Take enough time for this too. Advance planning will make negotiations easier.
Avoid blaming
The other person's resentment makes it difficult for them to listen to you and understand your concerns. Don't blame the other person for everything or start the conversation with your opinion about what should be done.
Discuss the issue and listen to the other side
Do not discuss the other person's behavior. Instead, share your feelings. Give the other person a chance to fully present his/her side. Try to understand how the other person feels.
Show that you are listening
Even if you don't agree with what is being said, let the other person know that you are listening and are glad that you are discussing the problem together.
Don't talk nonsense
Once you start the conversation, get all issues and feelings out in the open. Don't skip the part that seems too 'difficult' to discuss. If all the issues are discussed in depth then a definite solution will be found.
Work on solutions
When you reach a solution topic in a discussion, start working on it. Fully follow through on promised changes in mutual behavior.
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