Everyone looks for a partner in their life who loves them unconditionally. It is usually difficult to find such a partner. However, once people choose such a partner, they do not want to lose him at any cost.
They become so deeply in love with each other that they even lose their identity in the relationship. However, this does not mean that their relationship is bad. But maintaining one's identity in relationships is also very important.
today relationship In this column we will talk about maintaining your identity in a relationship.
This is how people lose their identity in a relationship After getting into a relationship, people tend to mold themselves according to their partner to get closer to them. We start considering their choice as our own. As the relationship progresses, people become completely immersed in it and even lose their identity. Understand its meaning through the following graphic-
This is how you maintain your identity in relationships In the process of pleasing their partner in a relationship, people gradually lose their identity and do not even realize when this happens. However, you can protect your identity by keeping a few things in mind. Understand this from the following graphic-
Let us now talk about the above points in detail.
Set boundaries in the relationship Setting boundaries in a relationship is very important. This provides space and time for your personal growth. Feel free to tell your partner about things that you absolutely can't stand. Healthy boundaries keep partners from losing their identity in the relationship.
Don't stay away from friends You must have met many people in your life, who stop meeting friends after getting into a relationship. This should not be done at all. It is very important to maintain a friendship beyond a relationship. Friendship reminds you of who you are as a person. It helps manage social life outside of relationships.
Focus on your goal Being in a relationship is a good thing, but it doesn't mean that you get bogged down in it and forget your goals in life. Even in a relationship, always keep your goals in mind and keep striving to achieve them.
Don't compromise your choices In a relationship, people prefer to spend their entire lives around their partner. They reluctantly start liking the music, food and places that the partner likes, but this should not happen at all. If your preferences are different, let your partner know about it instead of compromising.
Put yourself first Partners in a relationship often prioritize each other. Shows love and care for each other, tries to keep them happy. Meanwhile, they often forget to prioritize themselves. Keep in mind that not giving yourself time can cause them to lose their identity entirely.
American novelist, short story writer and journalist Ernest Miller Hemingway in his book 'Man Without Woman' writes –
Give enough time to family After being in a relationship, don't forget your family at all. Keep in mind that no one supports us in our happiness and sorrows except family. It is no less than a shock for them if they suddenly stop giving time to their family. So, keep both love and family together.
Prioritize your own work List your current needs and tasks. Include your 10 priority works in this. Notice that these are things that are important to you, but you can't do them. This means that while giving time to your partner, you should also take care of your own needs. Don't delay for this.
Communicate clearly Honesty and clear communication strengthen the relationship with the partner. Tell your partner how you feel, what you like and what you don't like. The only way to improve a relationship is to recognize each other's faults. So always talk openly with your partner.
Participate in your favorite activities Don't stop doing the things you love. Like playing cricket, travelling, attending concerts. It is important to keep your favorite activities separate from the relationship. This helps in maintaining the identity of the person.
Disadvantages of losing one's identity in a relationship Losing one's identity in a relationship can lead to many disadvantages, which affect a person from a mental and emotional point of view. Understand this from the following graphic-
Overall, you love your partner no matter what, but it's important to maintain your identity in the relationship. Many times the lack of it makes the relationship feel like a burden. This can lead to things like low self-esteem, emotional imbalance, lack of decision-making ability, lack of independence, dissatisfaction in relationships and personality changes. To avoid this, it is important to maintain your identity and value yourself while in a relationship.
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