Kaun apna hai tera kaun paraya…..: According to science, 'psychological first aid' helps relieve stress and sadness; But to share the pain, understanding of one's own self is necessary

You must have heard this saying, 'Sharing eases the pain'. This is indeed true, but can everyone share themselves with others? Perhaps there are very few of us who can share our troubles with others. There may be many personal reasons behind it. When life hurts, we feel lonely. We isolate ourselves from people. We don't get the help and support we need. But did you know that talking to others can be an effective way to understand and cope with our emotions? Sharing is a type of therapy that can help you overcome painful feelings like fear, childhood trauma, loss, failure. But you can share all this only with someone with whom you feel safe to share your problems and pain. But many of us don't have such close friends or family. In such a situation, they share their problems with people who are willing to seek help. You can find such people at meetings, support groups, specialized organizations, and online forums. In this you can find close and trusted people with whom you can express your thoughts. This can make you feel better. So today in 'Relationship' column we will talk about 'pain sharing' i.e. sharing your pain. We will also know with whom we can share our sorrows and pains. How can we recognize such people? One can recognize one's loved ones only in sorrow. When sorrow comes in life, not only is one tested, but as it comes, you also learn about yourself and others. There is an old story in which once Sadness told Sukh that you are very lucky, people want you only. Then Sukh said, not me but you are lucky because as soon as you come people start remembering their loved ones. On the contrary, people forget their people as soon as I enter someone's life. Therefore, the state of suffering is such that one can recognize who is one's own and who is alien. You can also reduce your pain by sharing it with them. According to a study published in the Association for Psychological Science, grief can be negative and painful but it can actually give you positive results. It acts as a kind of 'social gum', promoting cohesion in groups. Brock Bastian, a psychologist and researcher at the University of New South Wales in Australia, says that according to a research, when we share our pain with people, it also helps us to get closer to people. By doing this we can also meet new people. Sharing pain and suffering develops empathy Sharing pain develops empathy not only within ourselves, but also among those to whom we express our pain. 'Empathy' means putting yourself in another person's place, thinking, understanding and seeing the world from their point of view. When a person gets out of himself and tries to understand the feelings of others, he becomes empathetic towards them. According to a report published in the 'Journal of Internal Medicine', people who regularly practice empathy have better relationships and personal well-being than those who don't. It helps in inner happiness and removes any form of depression. 'Share sorrow' to develop empathy 'Share sorrow' can be adopted to develop empathy. It means sharing your pain and listening and understanding the pain of others. That is, happiness or sorrow, sharing both makes us feel good. 'Psychological First Aid' Helps to Relieve Grief To reduce mental distress, psychiatrists recommend that you should take help of 'Psychological First Aid'. It means go and talk to someone close to you. Sharing your pain. This will also help you come out of those tough times and stress. Don't run away from your pain, have the courage to share it We often suppress our thoughts and feelings out of fear. We fear being judged by others. Our deepest truth can be very difficult to accept and we find it easier to run away from it rather than face it. Sharing Pain Makes Us Stronger We empower and strengthen ourselves when we face and share our pain. Sharing your weaknesses is a great step towards believing in yourself, building your inner strength and moving forward with courage. But sharing also requires the identity of one's own people. That is, with whom you can express your opinions and who can keep your opinions to themselves.

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