Everyone makes mistakes. No one is perfect in this world. All of us sometimes, knowingly or unknowingly, hurt someone's heart with something we say. Making a mistake is not bad, not admitting it after making a mistake is bad. Mistakes won't be so big if you apologize or apologize for them. But as easy as it is to say or write 'I'm sorry', it is not so easy to feel and apologize from the heart.
- Why is it so hard to apologize?
- Why and how to apologize?
- What is the correct way to apologize?
- How does not admitting our mistakes affect our relationships?
Today's relationship In this column we will try to find answers to some of these questions.
Why is it hard to apologize? If it was that simple, everyone in the world would admit their mistakes and apologize and there wouldn't be so many fights.
A social science study on this was published in the research journal 'Sage'. According to this study, some of the main reasons why people don't apologize are as follows-
- They don't really care about the other person.
- Apologies hurt their self-image.
- They feel that apologizing will do no good.
Why is an apology important? If you realize your mistake and accept it and say it won't happen again, this is forgiveness. Apologizing or apologizing shows that you regret what you did or said. You know it was wrong and you will try harder to prevent it from happening again in the future.
Not apologizing when you're wrong can be detrimental to personal and professional relationships. This can lead to anger, resentment and even hostility, which can escalate over time.
True forgiveness means learning from mistakes Apologizing or admitting a mistake in a relationship strengthens your relationship. However, it is not as easy as people think because your ego or nature does not allow you to do it.
A sincere apology is one that expresses genuine empathy, remorse and regret, as well as a promise to learn from mistakes. In other words, you really need to admit that you did something wrong for which you are sorry.
When to apologize?
Knowing when to apologize is just as important as knowing how to apologize. Understand it from the directions given below.
- If you suspect that something you've done, intentionally or accidentally, has hurt someone else, it's important to apologize and explain the situation.
- If what you did had happened to you, you would have felt bad. If that's the case then obviously others felt bad too. In such a situation, an apology must be made.
- Apologizing gives you a chance to 'admit' your mistakes, but it also gives you a chance to reveal what you thought was right or wrong.
- Even if you didn't do anything on purpose, but your words inadvertently hurt or hurt someone, apologizing is the right decision.
While a sincere apology can help mend the relationship, people often don't want to do it. It is very difficult to admit that we were wrong. In the graphic below, understand the things to keep in mind while apologizing.
It's never too late to apologize If people walk out of your life before you have a chance to apologize, or if things get so bad that an apology doesn't seem possible, remind yourself that it's never too late to apologize. Even if you find the idea of settling down daunting, it's still worth a try. Suppressing emotions is not good, especially if you have a desire to make things right.
If you feel like you should give up trying to rebuild a relationship with someone, think about what it would be like to live with regret. If you have hurt someone you love (whether that love is romantic or not), you should never give up.
Why is forgiveness always expected from the younger? We have seen since childhood that the younger always apologizes to the elders. Society expects the same. Have you ever heard a parent apologizing to their children or teachers to their students or a boss to his employees? No.
Apology also becomes difficult because there is a (power equation) power equation attached to it. We need to rise above this mentality and change ourselves. Parents should also apologize to their children if a mistake is made and elders should apologize to the younger ones so that children understand the power of forgiveness.
Children should be taught that it has nothing to do with age, power, position, ego and arrogance. Whenever we make a mistake, we should apologize very simply and humbly.
And finally the most important thing. Finally, why is apologizing good for our physical and mental health? What does apologizing change in us?
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