Our relationship is based on trust and understanding. Sometimes these relationships begin to affect our mental and physical health. Hence it becomes necessary to maintain limits in relationships.
A healthy boundary in relationships helps us maintain peace and balance in our lives, as well as strengthens our relationships.
In today's fast and competitive world, where everyone is running on their own path. We need to understand that even in relationships we have the right to express our preferences, wants and needs.
We are in such a situation today relationshipLet's talk about, –
- What are healthy limits in a relationship?
- What is an unhealthy boundary?
- How to maintain healthy boundaries in a relationship?
What is a healthy limit? Every relationship has certain spoken and unspoken boundaries that we do not cross. For example, we should not spy on the phone of a friend or partner. One should not sit in a public place and talk loudly. One should not enter one's room or house without ringing the doorbell.
Although such relationships should have healthy boundaries, healthy boundaries are often neglected in our society. For example, a father's wish is to see his son become an officer while the son's dream is to become a chess player.
Here the father, knowingly or unknowingly, tries to influence the son. When the son says that he will choose a career of his choice, the son automatically starts creating healthy boundaries in the relationship. It improves the mental and physical health of the son. Also, when the son is able to explain this to his father, he will not only protect his own boundaries but also avoid violating the boundaries of others.
Let's understand the graphic in detail.
Healthy boundaries in relationships play an important role in many aspects of our lives. This helps in maintaining balance in relationships, work and personal life. We feel safer with healthy boundaries. For example, we may wish to shake hands with someone instead of hugging them. Instead of going out with a friend, you can say, “I need some rest.” We may decide which topics are not appropriate for you to discuss. By setting these boundaries we can maintain mental and physical peace in our lives.
What are unhealthy boundaries? Do you ever feel like the boundaries of the relationships in your life are blurring? Your friend often asks you for money and you feel that you are being exploited. Or your partner constantly burdens you with his feelings.
It makes you feel stressed. Have you ever thought that your parents are violating your personal freedom, which makes you feel angry inside? These are all signs that your relationship lacks healthy boundaries.
Boundaries are not only limited to personal relationships, but are equally important at the office or work. Such situations not only disturb your peace of mind but also affect your personal life. In this condition people feel emotionally exhausted and happiness disappears.
Ways to maintain healthy limits It is important for everyone to set healthy boundaries in relationships. Be it a romantic relationship or a friendly or family relationship. First you have to understand what you want. If you are worried about personal freedom, you can sit down with your partner and talk about it. Couples coach and therapist Aparna Mathur says we can create healthy boundaries in a relationship by asking a few questions. Let's know about these questions.
Create healthy boundaries with these 9 questions
- Try to know what you want in your relationship.
- Ask yourself what makes you uncomfortable
- Think about what qualities you value in others.
- Be clear about how you want to spend your time.
- What things are important to your happiness and contentment?
- Understand your limits based on experience with someone
- Did someone say something that made you feel insulted?
- Has anyone made you feel physically uncomfortable?
- Have you been pressured into doing something that doesn't match your values?
By considering all these you can decide your limits. Also express your feelings, so that the other person understands it properly. If someone crosses the line, restate your needs firmly. With this, you will be able to build a healthy relationship through healthy boundaries.
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