Relationships give us love, support and happiness. But it is also very fragile. It is very important to preserve it. However, sometimes small things cause cracks in the relationship and bring it to the verge of breaking up. There can be many reasons for this. Like cheating, jealousy, distance and some bad habits.
Famous American author Dr.Gary Chapman has written a book on human relationships, which is included in the New York Times bestseller list. The name of this book is 'Five Love Languages: The Secret to a Love That Lasts'. In this book, Chapman talks about five love languages. These include expressing love and appreciation through positive words, doing something for your partner that makes him or her happy, giving gifts, spending quality time together, and physical touch. Dr. According to Gary Chapman's research, 85% of relationships fail due to lack of communication.
So today relationship In this column we will talk about some of the behavioral patterns that lead to relationship breakdowns. We will also know how to avoid this?
First of all, let's graphically know what are the behaviors that affect our relationship with our partner.
Lack of communication in the relationship Communication is the key to a healthy relationship. We have been hearing this for a long time. But still many people do not prioritize talking to their partner. In this age of digital devices, people are always lost in their mobile phones. Due to this real life relationships are left behind. In such a situation, misunderstanding may arise in the couple's relationship. However, even in such a situation, communication plays an important role. If we don't talk to our partner, problems will continue and resentment will grow.
Renowned American psychologist, professor and author Dr. John M. Gottman has researched nearly 40,000 couples over the past 30 years. After this research he said that poor communication is the main cause of breakups.
Lack of empathy in the relationship We are right, our partner is wrong; We do everything in a relationship, get nothing in return. Realizing this is very easy. But when we don't understand our partner's point of view, they feel like they're not being heard. This increases the communication gap and creates a gap in the relationship. In such a situation it is necessary to show sympathy towards the partner. A lack of empathy in a relationship can affect the mental health and happiness of both individuals.
Always criticizing the partner We hate our own criticism. But still sometimes we can't stop ourselves from doing this with our partner. Keep in mind that criticism never motivates a person to change. Instead it makes them angry and resentful. If you find yourself overly critical, think deeply about where it's coming from. Try to control it gradually.
show off Showing off is absolutely not appropriate in a relationship. If we feel the need, we should ask ourselves, why? Do you think your partner will resent you? Are you trying to present yourself in a certain way or are you afraid that your real face is not so good? Always present yourself to your partner as you are.
Lack of respect in the relationship Respecting each other is very important in a relationship. A relationship where there is no respect cannot last long. If you can't respect your partner then you should ask yourself why. Do you think it's stupid? Why are you with him if that's really the case? Making fun of your partner and making fun of him is poison in the relationship. This is why you do not see any positive qualities in your partner.
Being insecure in a relationship Insecurity in a relationship means that we are unsure about our relationship. It is the belief that we are not the best for our partner. It makes you feel restless. Some of its features are-
- You may feel jealous of other people involved in your partner's life.
- You may constantly keep an eye on your partner or wonder if she is cheating on you.
- You may not trust your partner to be faithful all the time.
- You can apologize for small things to save your partner from getting angry.
In such situations, when your partner says or does something that hurts, it is important to know why he is saying or doing that. If you don't control your insecurities, it can really ruin a relationship. So check yourself and see where your emotions are really coming from.
Expect everything from your partner Partners in relationships are often interdependent. They expect their partner to fulfill all their needs. However, sometimes it hurts when this expectation is not fulfilled. So, consider your partner's feelings, accept them and put the needs of the relationship at the top.
Avoiding talking about important topics It's not like happy couples never fight with each other. They fight each other but their fights are not dirty. In fact, debate can be healthy. This is an opportunity to grow as a couple, but only if you use it to reach a solution. If you have a problem, ignoring it won't change anything. It will only increase resentment between you. It will spoil your relationship. So, definitely talk to each other about your problems.
Make some changes in yourself for a happy relationship To have a happy relationship with a partner, we need to make some changes in ourselves. See the following graphic for this-
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