In Indian tradition, it is believed that on the day of Devouthi Ekadashi, Lord Vishnu wakes up from his sleep of four months. After this, the auspicious time starts across the country and people start auspicious works.
During this time, people following Hindu traditions get married. According to data from the All India Trade Federation (CIAT), around 48 lakh couples will tie the knot across the country during the wedding season this year.
If you too are getting married in the coming days and are stressed about the wedding, then it is possible that you are suffering from marriage anxiety. In such a situation, today we will talk about marriage anxiety and its symptoms in relationships. You will also know that –
- What is Marriage Anxiety?
- What are the reasons for this?
- How to deal with marriage anxiety?
What is Marriage Anxiety? Many of us feel stressed and nervous before marriage. Thinking about the changes in life after marriage, people are surrounded by many doubts. There is a fear that the decision of marriage is right or not. This is called marriage anxiety.
The reason for this could be anything from wedding preparations to uncertainties felt while thinking about the future. People are often worried about how their life will change after marriage, how their relationship will be and how well they will be able to handle these changes.
What are the symptoms of marriage anxiety? Marriage anxiety can have many symptoms. As the date of marriage approaches, the symptoms may intensify. See the details in the graphic below –
What are the causes of marriage anxiety? The causes of marriage anxiety can include many reasons including past experiences, personal insecurities. A past divorce of parents can also increase marital anxiety. You may feel stressed not to repeat the mistakes made by your parents.
If you are dissatisfied with your partner or have a fear in your mind that your partner may not love you, then this situation can also lead to anxiety. Moving to a new place after marriage, thinking about a new job can increase stress. Different ideas about future plans with their spouses can also create tension.
How to deal with marriage anxiety? It is normal to feel anxious before marriage. No need to worry about this. In such a situation you should share your feelings with family and friends.
Talk openly with your partner If you are worried about marriage then share this with your partner. Tell them why you are worried, so they can better understand and support you. Your partner will feel the same way. This will make your relationship stronger.
Talk to a friend or family Share your concerns with a close friend, family member, or therapist. Tell them what kind of support you need and why you are concerned. If you have a friend or loved one going through this situation, help them.
Take care of yourself Prioritize self-care in between wedding preparations. Incorporate activities like yoga, meditation or reading books into your daily routine. Maintaining mental, physical and emotional balance will reduce anxiety.
Learn to live in the presentDon't get so busy with future plans and wedding preparations that you forget to enjoy the present. Try mindfulness techniques. Pay attention to the things around you, engage yourself in a favorite activity.
Be realistic about married life Nothing is perfect and that is normal. Both marriages and relationships will have ups and downs. Accept it and if your partner is worried about it, explain it to them lovingly.
Make a plan togetherSit down with your spouse and plan your wedding. Discuss marriage related matters once a week and plan something unique for the wedding. This will make planning more enjoyable and less stressful.
Learn and understand about marriage and relationshipsLearn about marriage and relationships through premarital workshops or books. Understanding this will help reduce your anxiety.
Remember why you decided to get marriedRemember the beautiful moments you spent with your partner. This can turn your anxiety into excitement. When you realize the chemistry between the two of you, the tension will ease and you will understand why you decided to get married.
What is the difference between Marriage Anxiety and Gamophobia? Gamophobia is a mental condition in which a person fears marriage or responsibilities. In this condition, a person may experience symptoms like panic, increased heart rate, sweating, shortness of breath and panic attacks at the thought of marriage.
Such people have fear about marriage. The reasons behind gamophobia can be bad experiences in the past and fear of losing independence after marriage. In such a situation one should seek the help of a physician or counsellor.
Psychiatrist Dr. Satyakant Trivedi says, there is a big difference between gameophobia and marriage anxiety. It is natural to have some stress and anxiety around a wedding. But this should not lead to the conclusion that you are suffering from gametophobia. However, in both situations, talking to a counselor can be helpful.
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