'Doctor, we have been married for three years. I have noticed that Aishwarya has become more disturbed since we last went out on vacation. Everything is fine between us. My parents keep it nice. There are only four of us in the house. So what happened to it? He doesn't have any chronic depression, does he?' Mit asked the question getting emotional with love and concern. Aishwarya was crying continuously since she arrived. Husband Mit had no idea what to do now to stop Aishwarya's tears! Had a conversation with Aishwarya. He started talking. Of course, the constant crying continued. He struggled to speak his mind, but slowly he began to open up. 'Despite what anyone says, I am not a good person. I am not worthy of death. To be honest, I don't deserve this house. All these people are very good people but I am of bad character. I have hidden many things from Mitt. When I was in my first year of college, I had a crush on a boy, Summer. I spent a lot of time with Samar. However, he never confessed that he also likes me or that there is any situation or relationship between us. I thought from his behavior that he would also come closer to me, but suddenly one day I saw his social media post and I felt sad. He changed his status from single to 'committed'. I was completely broken after seeing his photos with his girlfriend. However, there was no difference in Samar's behavior. I withdrew from all of them. However, this too was 'self-cheating'. I still 'stal' it on social media sometimes. I don't know why I like to do that, but then I regret it so much. Feel very guilty and panic. So far so good but my biggest guilt is that I never told Mit about Samar. Although, he told me about his 'past', but I did not tell him anything. I constantly feel like I'm betraying a good person. I am the culprit of the whole family and I have no courage to say this. All my strength is drained away with my tears.' Aishwarya spoke. An interesting research has been published about this in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. People often keep painful or negative information secret because they worry that others will 'judge' them badly. People tend to make terrible assumptions about themselves, but research suggests that this is not entirely true. In the experiment done for this, a total of 508 people were divided into two groups. Secret Teller and Secret Listener. The secret teller is asked to predict what the listener of the secret will think of him or herself. Then the secret teller is instructed to tell the real thing. Secret listeners, after hearing the true story, felt that the expected perception was perceived as worse than the actual story. In short, the secret was not so much spirit as ill-conceived. The same was true for the confidant's close friends, family, romantic partner, acquaintances or strangers. In short, people do not consider the so-called secret as badly as we assume. Some people are overly concerned about their own 'imprint' in society. In our case Aishwarya was told to Mit by her after the treatment. Mit laughed out loud on hearing this. This was a minor incident for him. On the contrary, he immediately 'hugs' Aishwarya. And immediately said, 'I am with you in any situation, Aishwarya!' Forget all this. Let us both start living a new life afresh. Of course, in my eyes, you have gone one step higher. Love you Aishwarya…! This whole phenomenon indicates the impact of a changing society. Nowadays the new generation is giving up on valuing the broken relationships of the past. It is necessary to get rid of the painful feeling like a thorn. True relationships require compromise and open-minded acceptance, especially if the person is close! Fear of imagining another person's standards does not lower self-esteem.
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