Most parents believe that their child is the rod of their wisdom, the basis of their future. His prestige in the society and some talent or something to perform in front of people, with everything else except unrequited affection! The first relationship between parent and child should be only 'affection'. How can a parent differentiate between a high marks, smart, talented or clever child, a slightly less clever or relatively lazy child? Importantly, the child's marks, success or skill should receive praise from the parents, but failure, disappointment, awkwardness or ingenuity should receive affection and encouragement. A parent has no right to discriminate between his two children, nor does a child have the right to grow up to be the judge of his parents! Khalil Gibran says, Our children have come into this world through us, but we have no right or ownership over them. We have to give them a better life, make them a good person and add a strong foundation to the society. It is the duty of a parent to love his child very much, but it is his responsibility to make him aware of that mistake from an early age, if he has done something wrong in ignorance, so that he does not repeat the same mistake. Love doesn't just mean 'wish fulfillment'. Can we say that parents who give expensive toys, expensive school or everything that comes out of mouth love the child more and middle class, poor parents who cannot fulfill all the wishes of the child love less? Not at all. The truth is, parents have to be a responsible couple to prepare a wise, responsible and honest person for the future. A very clever and clever person will become a monster if he has no sense of essence, but a slightly less clever or simple person will become a valuable contribution to society if he has a sense of responsibility towards life and society. The habit of saying 'thank you' or 'sorry' is the first step in making a person polite and good. The one who can apologize and thank you will not face any problem in life, but today's parents are proud of the child who does not say 'sorry' or 'thank you', they laugh and say, 'He will not say sorry to anyone! What else to say thank you?' In fact, parents should start inculcating a good habit of saying 'thank you' or 'sorry' to each other. Parents who argue in front of the child, put each other down, teach the same thing to the child, while parents who respect and love each other, raise the same loving and understanding child. We are not in the habit of saying 'thank you', rather if someone says thank you, we think it is wrong 'manners' and associate such people with hypocrisy or western culture. Giving thanks or appreciating is an activity that is slowly disappearing from our society. The truth is, even a small pet animal or bird living in our house is well trained by hearing 'very good' or 'very nice'. Such words of appreciation provide an incentive for everyone to behave well or do good work, move forward or reach great heights in career. Praise the child accurately, but not falsely. Appreciate only if you have done a really good job. Parents who 'encourage' their children in small things forget that they will not be able to bear it when their child shows a mistake in the future or proves to be less skilled than others. It is necessary to involve the child in small household chores. Be it a son or a daughter, he should be taught from childhood that no housework is too small. Dad should set an example by working. The most important thing is about appreciating the work of a housewife or mother or wife. In almost all households it is assumed that whatever a woman is doing is her responsibility or duty. On the other hand, a wife or housewife believes that whatever the husband does is hard work, his duty or responsibility. It's not wrong, but dad doesn't do any housework-insults mom because he earns it… In a home that gets established, a naughty man and a rebellious woman grow up. Dad's earnings and mom's housework are important in the same way, in today's times, when mom's earnings are more than dad's, instead of having an ego, father should explain to his children that both of them take care of this house-family together, no one is more or no less! Most parents become parents only by biological accident. Raising a good healthy person is not easy. A sociable person or a wise father, a loving mother is prepared only when the understanding, the consciousness of responsibility towards the society or the feeling and care towards one's children is inculcated from childhood… just as grains or fruits do not grow overnight in one's life. But good qualities do not come overnight, they have to be sown and nurtured which is the responsibility of parents only. The teacher may participate in this, but the parents spend the most time with the child who spends five-six hours in school. A teacher has a class of 20 to 30 children while parents have to focus on one or two children… not just things, parents who give a legacy of ideas can contribute to the country's youth by raising a 'fit' and 'responsible' citizen. .
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