Dr. Prakash Dave
Saying no to someone is an act of bravery and not everyone is brave so not everyone says no. It is not mandatory to say no verbally to say no. God has given an alternative to say yes or no other than using the tongue and lips. To say yes, the whole face has to be turned from the sky to the earth and from the earth to the sky. There is no clear mention of how many times to do this, but it has to be done up and down on the head until the other person understands. How many rounds they can understand our yes depends on our luck. Similarly, to refuse, the mouth has to be turned from left to right and from right to left, including all matters. There is no time or effort constraint in that either. If the opposite person understands in one fell swoop, Ganga is not! But if it is foolish, you have to dedicate your head to its service till eternity. Such fat Nanayo while studying actions like eating salted horn or drinking water have to be done in a moving car, which means that the mouth is spinning! In understanding yes or no, it is not the other person's fault every time. Many give a tongue-in-cheek answer instead of giving a clear answer. A native form of this round-the-tongue answer is the head-round answer! This involves turning the head in such a way that the viewer feels yes and no. Of course, doing so requires many times more power than it takes to say a clear yes or no. Also, if the head is of a large size, a lot of calories are consumed in making a round of yes or no, so avoid giving a round answer with the use of the head as far as possible. If it has been decided that 'We will take the work with the eyes and no longer speak' then the answer can be yes or no with the eyes, but it is not possible to give a round answer with the eyes because the eyes are an honest organ. He can never talk round! There are two occasions in which a man says yes but refuses or gives a roundabout answer. The first occasion is when a guest arrives… We have been a guest anywhere, so the test of our habit of telling the truth is especially during the meal. The host has specially brought roses for us. We have also accepted their sentiments and in the first two or three voluntary rounds, we have put five purples in our stomachs. Then the second round starts which is called 'Agraha Round'. In this, there is a gap on both sides. The focus of the host is on the jambu stock and insistence is part of our rites. So he lives unfulfilled and stretches out his arm with trembling hands. Here the guest has to show his rites. So he says no, which means yes. There is a need for this but what is the need for this? That kind of price gets in our face. Jambu keeps getting tossed between host, guest and pan like a poor hanger! Here our 'no' means yes. Everyone knows that. At that time, the wife of the host appears to play the role of a mediator during the conflict between the two nations and insists the guest to play a role of reconciliation. According to the pundit saying, save half when everything seems to be gone, both the host and the guest sit facing each other and belch with the satisfaction of having saved half the jamb. Another occasion for an ambiguous yes or no comes at the guest's departure. The guest takes out a hundred rupee note and presents it to the host's son. The host son can't decide whether to say yes or no based on previous experience, so he uses a helpline called Dad. Where can dad even make a decision? So it uses its own 'lifeline'. There is a 'Isharo Isharo Mein' consultation between the two. Then the way both of them shake their heads towards the son can be said to be the best example of a roundabout answer. Both the son and the guest are confused. Does the son feel that money is to be taken or not? The guest is confused whether to pay the money or to put it in the pocket?! After a few rounds of yes and no, here too a lady Vishtikara, wife of the guest takes the lead. Taking the middle path, he says, 'Do it Munna, keep fifty rupees…!' You must have become a host or a guest somewhere! Yes or no?.. Please don't give round answers!!
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