Bollywood superstar couple Rajesh Khanna and Dimple Kapadia got married in 1973, but their marriage lasted only for 8 years. Actress Dimple Kapadia said in an interview that during her marriage to Rajesh Khanna, Dimple gave her 100% to live up to her expectations, but still she never received a single word of appreciation.
Rajesh Khanna, one of the most popular stars of Bollywood in the 60s and 70s, married Dimple when she was just 16 years old. There was a gap of about 15 years between the two. They separated in the early 80s after the birth of their daughters Twinkle and Rinki Khanna. However, Rajesh Khanna and Dimple never divorced.
In relationships, it is often seen that after some time of marriage the partners are not able to give equal importance, time and dedication to each other. There can be many reasons behind it, like age difference, difference in ideas, work busyness etc. In such situations, couples forget to appreciate each other's things, forget to show each other love and support, or sometimes get bored of each other, which has a negative impact on the relationship.
So today relationship In this column we will talk about how to learn to value your partner in a relationship. You will also know that-
- How to be a better spouse?
- What mistakes should not be made in a relationship?
American author and relationship coach Harville Hendricks has written a book – 'Getting the Love You Want.' This book talks about ways to bridge the gap in relationships, correct mistakes and strengthen relationships. Harville Hendricks cites his own experiences and studies in many places in the book.
The suggestions in the following article are based on his book.
Taking your partner for 'taken for granted' causes a strain in the relationship After some time in a relationship, people start taking each other for granted and this can happen for many reasons. To 'take for granted' means to underestimate something or someone or to think that we will always have that thing or person. For example, when we take our partner for granted, we think that he is mine and will always be with me.
It is very important to value each other As easy as it is to get into a relationship, it is not so easy to maintain it. There are many difficulties or ups and downs when we get into a relationship. Due to which it seems difficult to maintain a relationship. Love and respect are the foundation of a strong relationship, but appreciating each other's things is very important.
There is a book by world-renowned psychiatrist John Gottman, '7 Principles That Make Marriage Work.' In this book, the author has given 7 important principles for a successful marriage. Like how couples can strengthen their relationship. This requires love, empathy, understanding, better communication and dedication in relationships.
The relationship between those who value each other's ideas becomes stronger Be it a love marriage or an arranged marriage, it is important to take care of the partner's needs in both. At the same time ideas have to be given equal importance. When you value each other's ideas, it shows that you respect each other. Valuing ideas improves communication. Then you understand what your partner is saying without saying anything.
According to a study published in Science Direct, praising each other in a relationship, valuing each other's understanding and ideas can strengthen the relationship between husband and wife. Couples who have these two habits have very few negative experiences in their relationships. They mostly lead happy and contented lives.
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